Do you want to live your life with more ease and inner peace, with more clarity about who you are and how to take care of yourself and those you love, with a greater sense of inner strength and clarity of purpose… All of these abilities to change and live the best version of yourself are already inside of you.
However you may feel emotional stuck.
Did you get a message growing up that strong emotions were bad or a sign of weakness? Or that having painful emotions meant you weren’t focusing enough on your blessings or that you were being self-indulgent? Perhaps you learned to put on a mask and deny what’s really going on inside, or you learned to cope by numbing, zoning out, or engaging in addictive behaviors. Not dealing with emotions doesn’t make them go away. It just ensures they’re going to come out sideways or get directed inwardly. Emotional healing can mean freedom.
Strong emotions can end up interfering with our ability to see ourselves and our situations clearly and can cause problems in our relationships. What happens on the inside when we don’t engage in a process of emotional healing? This can look like this:
Feelings of helplessness or powerlessness
Feelings of bitterness and anger
Strong reactions to minor incidents
Being flooded with emotions out of the blue
Negative views of yourself
Painful emotions are universal. Everyone has them, but it’s not uncommon to go through life having never learned how to deal with them in a healthy way. Maybe it was never something that was modeled well for us growing up. Sometimes we manage to get by alright until we suddenly face a situation that overwhelms us and our usual coping mechanisms no longer work. Such as transiting into college being away from home for the first time especially during life in recovery of an eating disorders.
According to research by Jennifer Crocker, Ph.D., a psychologist at the University of Michigan’s Institute for Social Research (American Psychology Assoc., Vol. 33, No. 11, 12/2002), college students who based their self-worth on external sources – including their physical appearance, the approval they do or do not receive from others, and even their academic performance – reported a higher level of stress, greater levels of anger, problems with their academic performance, conflicts in their interpersonal relationships, as well as higher rates of drug and alcohol use, and various symptoms of eating disorders.
I'm not saying life is perfect. By all means it is not.
It’s not realistic to expect to always be ‘happy’ and free of suffering, even though we might all say we would want that. It’s more realistic to pursue ongoing healing than ongoing happiness. If healing means becoming the best version of yourself, it starts by facing painful emotions and letting that broken version of yourself be loved. What can this look like in your daily life?
If you're ready to find out our E-Learning Training courses will help you get right to the to the heart of the challenges you face and invite you to create new and empowered perspectives, allowing you to take charge of your life in a way that feels clear, and actually do-able.
It's totally free.
It's a 7- day mini series- called Worthy- it was designed to help you reconnect to your authentic self. As a business owner and recovered binge eater since 2016 I've learned that when you live your life in alignment with your values, it’s reflected in your business. People can sense your authenticity and they can feel the love you bring to your work - because it’s the same love you bring to the rest of your life. That said, at times, there are projects and people that will challenge you. In fact, they will make you believe you are not the person for the job or that you might not deserve the opportunity or even to heal or recover from your unresolved trauma and addictions. While negative experiences may suck while you are in them, trust that even when confronted with difficult people and situations YOU can continue to build your life and business and learn and evolve. Keep learning. Before you know it, you will build a life and business or career as impactful as your dreams. Don't suppressed your emotions, heal them. To that you must choose to identify them and process them. Let me show you how!
Dr. Nikki LeToya White
Help Developing A Plan For Self Care
Do you want help developing a self care plan that works for your own busy schedule? Do you want accountability implementing a self care plan? If you or someone you love is struggling to maintain optimal mental and emotional health, consider reaching out to Spiced Life Conversation Art Wellness Studio and Botanica. We are a Metro Atlanta, Conyers Georgia area. We are a coaching and counseling practice with empathetic, skilled counselors and recovery coaches who can help you set goals, develop a self care routine and move forward to build a more fulfilling life. Our team would be happy to work with you either just for a couple of sessions to develop and implement a Self Care plan or longer term to work toward overall better mental health within our membership site or other programs.
About The Author:
Dr. Nikki LeToya White MSEd-TL, Ph.D. RHN is the founder, director and a full time board certified trauma-informed nutritionist, folk herbalist, and wellness consultant at Spiced Life Conversation Art Wellness Studio and Botanica. She created Spiced Life Conversation, LLC
Art Wellness Studio and Botanica to provide the Metro Atlanta area with a counseling and coaching services where clients are carefully matched with the right program for healing abandonment and childhood emotional neglect trauma that cause codependency, emotional eating, financial stress, and imposter syndrome as it relates to fear of success and being abandon. We help you begin your emotional healing journey with ease. Recently, we have expanded to include online membership site so we now provide support to people living all over the world. All of our recovery coaches provide at least one evidence based treatment to assist in your recovery. Dr. White is a big proponent of self care and helping people live a fulfilling life! She has been in full remission with both codependency and emotional binge eating disorder since 2016. In live a life in recovery from sugar addiction. Loving her low sugar balance lifestyle.