This is Codepednecy
Codependency in men and women reveals itself through a cluster of symptoms which include:
a need to make others happy
a focus on others at the expense of the self
busying ourselves to exhaustion for the sake of others
rushing to keep the peace by denying problems
the inability to identify or express emotions
obsession over what others think
a need to control others' emotions with a focus on gaining approval and keeping others calm
intense discomfort when others are unhappy or disapprove of you
a negative self image
a need to fix and rescue others
feeling responsible for other people's emotions, failures, needs, and wants
the fear that others might find out how unhappy you are
Codependency Recovery Plan
Creating a codependency recovery plan involves a thoughtful and intentional approach to breaking free from unhealthy patterns and fostering healthier relationships. Here's a comprehensive guide to help you in your journey towards codependency recovery:
1. Self-Reflection and Awareness:
Identify Codependent Patterns: Reflect on your relationships and identify specific codependent behaviors or patterns you want to address.
Explore Root Causes: Examine your past experiences and relationships to understand the origins of your codependent tendencies.
2. Educate Yourself:
Read About Codependency: Educate yourself on codependency through books, articles, or resources recommended by mental health professionals.
3. Therapeutic Support:
Find a Therapist: Seek a therapist or counselor with expertise in codependency and relationship issues.
Individual Therapy: Engage in individual therapy sessions to explore and address specific issues related to codependency.
4. Set Boundaries:
Identify Personal Boundaries: Clarify your own needs, values, and boundaries.
Practice Saying No: Develop the ability to say "no" assertively when necessary.
5. Develop Self-Compassion:
Practice Self-Kindness: Treat yourself with the same compassion and understanding you would offer a friend.
Challenge Self-Critical Thoughts: Identify and challenge negative thoughts about yourself.
6. Establish Independence:
Pursue Individual Hobbies: Cultivate interests and activities that are solely yours.
Make Decisions Independently: Practice making decisions without seeking constant approval from others.
7. Mindfulness Practices:
Meditation and Mindfulness: Incorporate mindfulness practices into your daily routine to stay present and centered.
Deep Breathing Exercises: Use deep-breathing exercises to manage stress and anxiety.
8. Healthy Relationships:
Evaluate Current Relationships: Assess your current relationships and identify those that are supportive and respectful.
Set Healthy Relationship Goals: Establish clear communication and mutual respect as foundations for healthy relationships.
9. Emotional Regulation:
Recognize and Manage Emotions: Develop emotional intelligence by recognizing and managing your own emotions.
Express Emotions Appropriately: Learn healthy ways to express your feelings and needs.
10. Support System:
Build a Support Network: Connect with friends, family, or support groups who understand and support your recovery.
Open Communication: Share your journey with trusted individuals who can offer encouragement and perspective.
11. Celebrate Progress:
Acknowledge Achievements: Celebrate small victories and milestones in your recovery.
Practice Gratitude: Cultivate gratitude for the positive changes you experience.
12. Continuous Learning:
Attend Workshops or Support Groups: Participate in workshops or support groups focused on codependency recovery.
Read and Stay Informed: Continue learning about personal development and mental health.
13. Regular Self-Check-Ins:
Reflect Regularly: Set aside time for regular self-reflection to assess your progress and identify areas for continued growth.
Remember, codependency recovery is a journey, and progress may take time. Be patient with yourself, and recognize that setbacks are a natural part of the process. Consistency and a commitment to self-improvement will contribute to lasting change and healthier relationships. If needed, seek professional guidance to navigate challenges and gain personalized insights.
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I Can Help in Developing A Plan For Self Care
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About The Author:
Dr. Nikki LeToya White MSEd-TL, Ph.D. RHN is the founder, director, and full-time board-certified trauma-informed nutritionist, folk herbalist, and wellness consultant at Spiced Life Conversation Art Wellness Studio and Botanica. She created Spiced Life Conversation, LLC Art Wellness Studio, and Botanica to provide the Metro Atlanta area with counseling and coaching services where clients are carefully matched with the right program for healing abandonment and childhood emotional neglect trauma that cause codependency, emotional eating, financial stress, and imposter syndrome as it relates to the fear of success and being abandon. We help you begin your emotional healing journey with ease. Recently, we have expanded to include an online membership site so we now provide support to people living all over the world. All of our recovery coaches provide at least one evidence-based treatment to assist in your recovery. Dr. White is a big proponent of self-care and helping people live a fulfilling life! She has been in full remission with both codependency and emotional binge eating disorder since 2016. In living a life in recovery from sugar addiction. I love my low-sugar balanced lifestyle.
Dr. Nikki LeToya White