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Managing People-Pleasing and One-Sided Relationships: Maintaining Emotional Sobriety

Updated: May 20

Managing People-Pleasing and One-Sided Relationships:   Maintaining Emotional Sobriety
Managing People-Pleasing and One-Sided Relationships: Maintaining Emotional Sobriety

Managing People-Pleasing and One-Sided Relationships:

Maintaining Emotional Sobriety

People-pleasing and one-sided relationships can be significant sources of stress and anxiety. Understanding and managing our triggers helps separate the past from the present, allowing us to maintain emotional sobriety and healthier interactions.

Understanding People-Pleasing

People-pleasing often stems from a need for validation and fear of rejection, typically rooted in past experiences. This behavior can lead to one-sided relationships where one's own needs are neglected.

Identifying Triggers in People-Pleasing

  1. Emotional Awareness Be aware of feelings of guilt, anxiety, or resentment when trying to please others. These emotions can indicate triggers related to past experiences of rejection or disapproval.

  2. Behavior Analysis Analyze situations where you go out of your way to please others, even at your own expense. Identifying these patterns helps understand the triggers behind them.

  3. Professional Help Seeking help from a therapist can provide insights into the origins of people-pleasing behaviors and help develop healthier interaction patterns.

Strategies to Maintain Emotional Sobriety

Setting Priorities Prioritize your own needs and well-being. Learn to say no when necessary and recognize that your worth is not dependent on others' approval.

  1. Developing Assertiveness Practice assertiveness in expressing your needs and boundaries. Clear communication can prevent one-sided relationships and ensure mutual respect.

  2. Self-Compassion Cultivate self-compassion and understand that it's okay to prioritize yourself. Engage in self-affirming activities that reinforce your self-worth.

  3. Healthy Relationships Foster relationships that are balanced and reciprocal. Surround yourself with people who respect your boundaries and value you for who you are.

  4. Supportive Communities Join support groups focused on people-pleasing and codependency. Sharing experiences and strategies with others can provide encouragement and practical advice.

Managing people-pleasing and one-sided relationships requires awareness and intentional effort. By identifying triggers and focusing on self-worth and assertiveness, we can maintain emotional sobriety and foster healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Recognizing and addressing these patterns allows for a more balanced and emotionally stable life.


Need Help Developing A Plan For Self-Care

Do you want help developing a self-care plan that works for your busy schedule? Do you want accountability in implementing a self-care plan? If you or someone you love is struggling to maintain optimal mental and emotional health, consider reaching out to Spiced Life Conversation Art Wellness Studio and Botanica. We are a Metro Atlanta, Conyers Georgia area. We are a coaching and counseling practice with empathetic, skilled counselors and recovery coaches who can help you set goals, develop a self-care routine, and move forward to build a more fulfilling life. Our team would be happy to work with you either just for a couple of sessions to develop and implement a Self-care plan or longer term to work toward overall better mental health within our membership site or other programs.

Dr. Nikki LeToya White
Dr. Nikki LeToya White

About The Author:

Dr. Nikki LeToya White MSEd-TL, Ph.D. RHN is the founder, director, and full-time board-certified trauma-informed nutritionist, folk herbalist, and wellness consultant at Spiced Life Conversation Art Wellness Studio and Botanica. She created Spiced Life Conversation, LLC

Art Wellness Studio and Botanica to provide the Metro Atlanta area with counseling and coaching services where clients are carefully matched with the right program for healing abandonment and childhood emotional neglect trauma that cause codependency, emotional eating, financial stress, and imposter syndrome as it relates to fear of success and being abandon. We help you begin your emotional healing journey with ease. Recently, we have expanded to include an online membership site so we now provide support to people living all over the world. All of our recovery coaches provide at least one evidence-based treatment to assist in your recovery. Dr. White is a big proponent of self-care and helping people live a fulfilling life! She has been in full remission with both codependency and emotional binge eating disorder since 2016. In living a life in recovery from sugar addiction. Loving her low-sugar balance lifestyle.

Warm Regards

Dr. Nikki LeToya White


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